We’re all familiar with the term “trophy wife.” This usually describes the rich, worldly man who chooses not to marry for love, but rather to marry for a suitable “trophy” to show off among his friends and business partners: a beautiful woman, beautifully dressed, perfectly-coiffed, manicured, and lavishly bejeweled. Love never enters into this arrangement; it’s purely about image.
Did you know we can also have “trophy children?”
When we raise “trophy children,” it’s always about image - how we’re perceived by others. It’s about having the brightest, most talented, best behaved children among our peers. Love may not even enter into the equation. It’s about showing off what we have that they may not have: "Your children are disrespectful, lazy, underachievers. But look at MY children! See how perfect they are? See how great I am? See how perfectly we raise our children? Don’t you wish you were like me?"
Now that’s the cold, ugly side of it, of course. Few of us are that coldblooded. But where does “wanting the best for our children...